WELCOME
to the website of psychologist Harriet Lerner.
Dr. Lerner is one of our most respected voices in the psychology of women, and the “how-tos” of navigating the swamps and quicksands of difficult relationships. She is the author of 12 books published in 35 languages. These include The New York Times bestseller The Dance of Anger, and her new book, Why Won’t You Apologize? Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts.
Why Won't You Apologize? Now out in paperback!

THE DANCE OF ANGER

""I wouldn’t have the career I have today had I not read this soul-shaking book. Harriet’s work fundamentally changed how I thought about my relationships, how I understood my own anger, and her career has long served as an inspiration to me." 
— Brené Brown, PhD., LMSW, author of the New York Times #1 bestseller, Rising Strong

WHY WON'T YOU APOLOGIZE?

"Harriet Lerner is one hell of a wise woman. She draws you in with deft and engaging prose, and then changes your life with her rigorous intelligence and her deeply human advice. I promise that you will never see ‘the apology’ in quite the same way.”  

—Esther Perel, MA, LMFT, author of Mating in Captivity